Why Setting Limits Is Important For The Relationship...

5 Setting Limits. To explain why setting limits is important for the relationship between you and your teen I would have to blog about it for days. The simple fact is that setting limits is structure that is essential to the relationship you’re going to establish with your children. These limits will be tested and negotiated. These limits are what will help build core beliefs and values that your teen will carry with them for the rest of their lives. These limits will allow for control and focus when it comes to what is best for your teen. Some parents like to sit down and make sure that they know where they stand with every rule, and others like to negotiate some of the rules with their teen. Neither of these is â€Å"wrong† as long as†¦show more content†¦Take the time to have a conversation about it and not just run down a list of rules. I’m telling you parents out there, the quickest way to impress a teen is to allow them the opportunity to make a choice and have a say in things. When your kids are little you tell them what to do and they learn by command and structure. This is a great way for children to learn. Teens, especially those who are struggling with emotions, hormones, and other chemical based issues, respond more positively to situations that seemingly allow the teen the power of choice, and will help defuse more than a few potentially hostile situations. Here is the thing about those options and your teen’s choices. You have to make sure that you are in control of all options presented. The task should never be compromised from the parental point of view. In the end, you are simply giving the teen options that you are already OK with. A parent who walks away from these situations and does not feel like they really got what they want, is going to have a hard time reconciling with the outcome of future events. As an example, when I was tasked with the job of getting teens to do homework, it was always easier to give options that allowed the teen the choice of when to study, but the studying always was completed. I like to ask questions and compromise. I find it easy and usually ends in a positive way. Examples: â€Å"I’ll tell you what. You can play Xbox now if you really want too but that just